Single? How much do you really put yourself out there
Hi All I read this book the other day (have to admit it wasn't a very good book) but it did have one interesting point in it. It was a book about relationships and attracting the ideal partner, the book was full of cliche's but one point stuck out about how much a single person puts themselves out there.
I have to admit I could relate to this when I was single, I would make all the effort to go out and to meet people, I would goto bars, clubs, singles events, speed dating, various seminars and I could go on and on. I would make sure I put my fine clothes on, wear the best aftershave, I would have my hair cut that morning but all was to no avail. But why was is to no avail? Well I would go to these places but I wouldn't really put myself out there. I would keep myself to myself and engage in minimal conversation. I wasn't putting myself out there at all really even though I was there. When going out to these places and events you need to put your best self forward, engage in conversation with others (even if it does scare you) because at the end of the day the worst that can happen is.... nothing. And the most important thing... be yourself, not everone is going to like you and that is fine, but certain people will like you and they are the ones that are worth keeping.
“The hardest challenge is to be yourself in a world where everyone is trying to make you be somebody else.”
― E.E. Cummings
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